It's Groundhogs day! I'm not really excited about it.

I don't know if you guys saw this on yahoo's front page today. It was titled 4 ways to ruin or save valentines day.

** Warning- This is an adult conversation piece** **Some parts are risky!!**

4 Ways to Ruin Valentine's Day -- and How to Avoid Them

Posted by David Zinczenko

on Tue, Jan 30, 2007, 11:22 am PST

Valentine's Day is the Super Bowl of romance -- all the build-up, all the potential, all the promise of lots and lots of scoring. But like the Super Bowl, most V-days are letdowns, filled with fumbles, wobbly passes, and missed opportunities to, uh, split the uprights. Why? Many guys who are attached, semi-attached, or about-to-be-attached simply tend to run the same plays year after year, making Valentine's Day as predictable as finales of The Bachelor. Though the average man spends about $125 on Valentine's Day, he's likely not spending it in the right places (probably because the guys I surveyed for "Men, Love & Sex" consider V-Day a hassle, not an opportunity). Only 1 in 5 women say they want the traditional dinner and less than that want the traditional card and flowers (about 15 percent). For guys reading this, here's how to upgrade your playbook to make sure you live up to her great (and until now, possibly undeserved) expectations. And ladies, if you want a truly romantic Valentine's Day, anonymously e-mail this story to the man in your life.  

Not... A card
Instead... An e-mail  

Of course, there's nothing wrong with Hallmark's finest. You can go funny or romantic, short or long, the $2.99 version or the $6.99 monster card. But really. Your bed-buddy basically knows the gist of what's inside -- some variation of the words "you," "love," and "special." Instead, here's what you do. The night of Feb. 13, fire off an e-mail to your beloved so it's the first thing she opens on the 14th. Try, say, a top 10 list of reasons why you love her. Numbers 10, 7, 5, and 3 are insanely specific and funny habits that only she has. Numbers 9 and 2 are wonderfully earnest big-picture ideas about how (beautiful/smart/compassionate) she is. Number 8 quotes a lyric from her favorite song. Numbers 6 and 4 refer in some way to her amazing bedroom talents. And number 1, well, it better be good.  

Not... Roses
Instead... An orchid                                                                                                                                      

She's expecting roses. Red ones. Perhaps she's expecting that you're expecting something in return because you bought red roses. Men know the power of the curveball (to catch the hitter off guard), so start throwing them, would ya? By buying some kind of flower that won't wilt in a week, like an orchid, you're tapping into her symbolic side. When she sees a lasting flower, she sees a lasting relationship. That's much sexier than the clichéd box of a dozen reds. And orchids have kind of an exotic sexual appeal--they're the plant world's passion pits. So dive in.

Not... Restaurants
Instead... Finger foods  

I'm all for candlelit dinners, nice bottles of wine, and festive restaurant atmospheres. But V-Day at restaurants is like Fridays at 5 o'clock at the airport -- there's way too much traffic out there. That means you have about as much chance for privacy as a topless starlet frolicking in a fountain during the Cannes Film festival. You could make dinner at home, but instead, order in finger foods -- sushi, egg rolls, chocolate-dipped fruits. Do it right, and you'll be using your hands to feed each other and wipe smudges of chocolate off each other's lips. Which makes for a nice natural transition to other things you can do with your hands, mouths, and bodies. 

Not... Lace
Instead... Cotton

                                                                                                                                             She sees a wrapped box with a ribbon on it, and she can make three guesses as to what's inside. Red lacy lingerie. Black fishnet lingerie. Or black and red lingerie that has the approximate acreage of a coffee saucer. Many women have no problem with receiving lingerie for gifts, but they tend to be less than thrilled when a man makes his purchase based on what he likes, rather than what she might. This year, go with boy shorts and a cotton tank -- which can be even sexier than the aforementioned unmentionables.

My Response

--I think that buying a different flower other than roses is a great idea! Roses are traditional and sort of expected. I personally like daises but wouldn't be excited about carnations. Carnations....that just comes off as cheap, lazy, and screams the grocery store "ran out of everything else". A carnation can be a beautiful thing, just not on Valentines Day. The real point here is that while it may be a hassle for guys to pick something perfect for their significant other/s, if they are in touch with their women, they should know things that she likes. The one thing I didn't like about this article was that it seemed like if you followed these simple rules you could get lucky with your lady. I can't stress this enough you should never do something for someone only to hope for sex in return, or it wasn’t really a gift from the heart, and maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. I don't know why Valentines Day has to be such a chore; nice things should be going on year-round. My boyfriend has left flowers on my car, taken me to local places that have amazing views, let me pick out something I wanted online while he was doing his online shopping, created amazing things for me using Photoshop.... and none of these were even on Valentine’s Day. HE did it just because and every girl knows that means so much more. I really enjoyed this article; hopefully some clueless guy will find it insightful.

Happy New Year!

I've been blogging alot lately, you should all be so proud. I think that could possibly be one of my new years resolutions... is to find more time to do things that I love aka write.

I think that New Year's resolutions are meant to be broken. Everyone always has the same one every year. Lose weight.... Save Money..... Quit (bad habit here)..... So this year I decided I'm just gonna go with the flow.... I'm 14 hours into the new year, and it's been pretty awesome...I haven't broken any of my new resolutions.... well mainly because I don't really have any..... If I can think of something good by the end of the day, I'll let you know.

To all my xanga friends... I've gotten to see most of you, but there are a couple I havent. I'm working on that. If I havent seen you yet, let me know when you are free. I'll make it a point to come see you before I leave for Denton also known as little or medium D.

I think my boyfriend and I are going to go see Night at the Museum tonight, he will probably hate it, but I want to see it, so I guess he has no other choice.... Last time he picked a movie I fell asleep...lol...

So until next time....

Here's the blog that I mentioned in my last entry.

Only answer the phone after the second ring-
otherwise, you'll seem desperate. If you're given
someone's number, wait exactly two days before
calling. Make sure to play hard to get so that people
will be more inclined to chase after you. Never, under
any circumstances, act as interested as you really
are- at least until the last grandchild is in college.
Above all, never wear purple socks on your hands at
the stroke of midnight on the last Tuesday of the
month. We all know what that means...

Relationship games. Plenty of people play them, and
plenty of people have opinions about them. While some
people regard them as silly and not worth playing,
others feel that they can't be avoided. Still, others
hate playing games with a passion- but for the life of
them, just can't figure out how to stop playing.

These days, I tend to be an advocate of everything in
moderation, including game playing. While there are
some games that I simply won't play in the name of
finding Mr. Right, there are others
that I am heartily in favor of. Without much further
ado, I present my list of the more acceptable
relationship games.

1.) Hide and don't seek. Now, I'm all for people in
relationships having their own lives and interests. I
think it's a really bad idea for any two people to
behave like conjoined twins. I also enjoy my personal
space and feel that it's important to give space to
others when then they need it. That all being said,
when it comes to playing hard to get, I'm just not
willing to participate. What can I say? I'm slightly lazy by
nature. If you run off and hide, I'm not going to seek
you. I'm going to go off and play full contact sports
with someone else.

2.) Phone tag- you're not "it." As someone who regards
the telephone as more of a modern inconvenience than
anything else, I don't really like to call people. Of
course, when I do call, I expect a certain level of
respect- meaning that if I leave a message, I expect a
return call, or at the very least, a plausible excuse
by email (example: you were momentarily dead or in a
coma). I also expect all of this in a fairly timely
manner. So if you don't call back, I'm going to
stop that game of phone tag in its tracks. In other
words, you're just not "it" for me.

3.) No thanks, Red Rover. Again, we come back to my
impatience. Planning to spend time
together should not in any way feel like negotiating a
hostage situation. I don't like to walk on eggshells,
wondering if I'm suffocating you by asking you to go
to the movies. When it comes down to it, if you're not
up for spending some quality time with me without
whining beforehand, I'm not going to ask Red Rover to
send you right over. I'm going to ask for someone
else.

4.) Duck, duck, dummy. Casually dating a few people
at once until you find the right one is fine, but
juggling multiple serious relationships is not. Sorry,
Polyamorous Pete! I'm not going to feel flattered when
you  try to choose me for the night, and when you tap me on
the head, I'm not going to chase you. So dont even
think about "goosing" me. In fact, I'm already making
eyes at Monogomous Montgomery, sitting right across
from me. I don't like to share my toys.     

I like my games. They're fairly simple, the rules are
easy to follow, and they tend to appeal to my
impatient personality. At this point in
my life, they're the only ones I'm willing to play.
Honestly, most of the others make me want to pack my
playthings and go home.